I gave him an apple to eat while I had some cereal. He often doesn't have anything to eat until he gets to work, which isn't until about lunchtime, and I am trying to break him out of that bad habit. And if the way he ate that apple was any indication, it looks like it won't be a very hard habit to break.
Usually, when someone eats an apple, the entire core, top to bottom, is left behind, in a sort of double-concave shape. Not this guy. He ate pretty much everything but the area immediately surrounding the seeds and the seeds themselves. I laughed and fondly remarked that I had never seen anyone eat an apple so thoroughly. It amazed me, and I wanted to see it again.
Fast-forward to late night of the same day. We were in bed, about to sleep, and I was crying. He assumed it was because of my Dad, and it was--partly. But it was also partly because of him. The aftermath of my grief (or perhaps it is still ongoing grief) has somehow made me emotionally off, and I don't think I've been very good at showing him (or other people, for that matter) my love. This pains me because in less than a month, I will lose him too, in a way, as I will be leaving for Boston. I lost my Dad without being able to spend with him his last moments and say goodbye; I don't want to lose him in the same way: without being fully present and completely emotionally available to him during the time we have left.
If only it were so easy to fix my emotional state. Unfortunately, it is less like a broken car and more like a wound: you do not fix it; rather, you wait for it to heal.
A caress from a caring hand helps too. It may not directly heal the wound, but it does make one feel better.
Stroking my hair, he gently shushed me and and, "Don't cry." And then, to make me feel better, "Tomorrow, I'll show you how to eat an apple."
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